I’ve always been of the belief that if I’m not striking out frequently enough, then I’m really not playing the game. Well, not baseball exactly, because quite honestly, I never played baseball; but certainly the game of life.
Failure hasn’t ever bothered me too much. Don’t get me wrong. I love to win. But if I play really well, always giving it my all and still lose, well, I figure it’s mean to be and try to be gracious in losing. I step back, after congratulating the winner and try to take away a lesson, so that I will be able to do maybe better the next time, maybe at least differently.
The hardest failures are when there is no lesson. When I know I’ve done my very best and circumstances have just conspired to award the victory to another. When there isn’t anything more or different I could have done, the lesson is harder to accept. Fortunately, that doesn’t happen too often.
Recently I read an article by Jinny Ditzler called “There are no mistakes…really.” I thought it was well written, so here’s some highlights.
“How to handle mistakes
Here’s what I’ve learned — or am doing my best to learn:
- Listen to your inner wisdom
- Admit to your mistake
- Accept the fact that you’ve done something that didn’t work
- Figure out what you’re going to do about it — and do it
- For me, the lesson to avoid making mistakes is simple:
Slow down and think!
It’s not about how much I get done. It’s about how aware, kind, thoughtful, and thorough I am about what I do. And if I don’t, there’s nothing to do but learn from it. There’s nothing to do but set it right. There’s nothing to do but become stronger in our determination to become the person we know ourselves to be, the one we want to be.
How to put them right
- Swallow your pride and think about what you need to say to the person or the people you’ve hurt
- Connect with them and let them know how sorry you are
- If it’s a big one, get in touch with your remorse and share it in as authentic a way as you possibly can”
For the full article