Gemeinschaftsgefühl - What?

If you spoke German, you would know the answer to that question.  Quite simply it is the state of connectedness and interest a person has in the well-being of others.  An Adlerian based psychologist would go as far as to say it characterizes a person’s psychological health. 

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So how does one go about getting some Gemeinschaftsgefuhl?  It’s as easy as clicking here and signing up to become a Guiding Light at do-over.me. 

This is your opportunity to connect with others who could use your help and support in finding the perfect job for themselves.  Click here to find out what connecting with and showing interest in your fellow-beings can feel like for you. 

 

 

 

Jason got his first full time career job!!!

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Congratuations Jason S!

Jason graduated from a state university in May 2017 with a degree in Logistics.  We helped him find an internship for the fall of 2017.   We've supported Jason throughout his search and now he is fully employed by Neuco as purchasing agent.

To hear directly from Jason about his experience here at do-over.me, check out the video below.  Jason is on camera with his mom and brother at 1:15 in.  But watch them all!  It's short.  And everyone has a great success story! 

Finding work is hard work. It takes time and tears and lots of grit and hustle. With the support of do-over.me, the members of our tribe find their successes and fly in the direction of their dreams.  

 

 

Word of the Day: "Thin Slicing"

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According to an article from Inc, people are prone to make snap judgments about you within one-tenth of a second. This phenomenon is called "thin slicing" by psychologists and is largely informed by both societal biases and past experiences. One such bias is the belief that people with thick glasses are intelligent while women with tattoos are assumed to be promiscuous and heavy drinkers. While this is not always the case, it is an example of "thin slicing".  What "thin slice" do people come away with when they meet you? 

Can You Think On Your Feet?

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You got the call. You have an interview scheduled. Now what?

Join us on Saturday, February 24th from 10 AM to 11 AM for this special interview workshop. Register here to learn exactly how to handle telephone interviews and Face-to-Face interviews. Learn what to say and when to say it. Learn how to prepare; how to relax; how to present your best self. Learn to think on your feet!

Our founder, Cynthia K. Wade has 11 years of experience as an executive level recruiter and has prepared hundreds of people to "ACE" their interviews.  Take advantage of her expertise as she guides you through this process. If you have an interview coming up, you don't want to miss this free event.

Please register in advance for all events, even those that are offered at no charge.  It is important for planning purposes.  Also, if an event is cancelled, we will notify those who are registered. ONLINE registration closes 24 hours prior to the actual start of the event. If the event is on Monday, ONLINE registration closes on Friday. If you miss that deadline and want to come, please call us at 630-402-0429 to ensure that there is still space available.

Register here.

Talking With TED: The Art of Asking

Learn the art of asking! Wednesday, February 28th from 11 AM to 1 PM 

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Don't make people pay for music, says Amanda Palmer: Let them. In a passionate talk that begins in her days as a street performer (drop a dollar in the hat for the Eight-Foot Bride!), she examines the new relationship between artist and fan.

"So, I didn't always make my living from music. For about the five years after graduating from an upstanding liberal arts university, this was my day job. I was a self-employed living statue called the Eight-Foot Bride, and I love telling people I did this for a job because everybody always wants to know, who are these freaks in real life," says Palmer.

Learn how you too can let them help you by mastering the art of asking.  Reserve your spot at this interesting TED Talk by clicking here.

Your Job Search is like Dating

The following is a guest column by Emily Kapit. Emily is the Founder, Lead Resume Writer, and Head Career Strategist at ReFresh Your Step, LLC, a career advisory firm based in Miami, Florida.  As a single woman of many years and founder of do-over.me, I can totally relate. I too, often find myself comparing dating and job search with clients.

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I do not normally dole out dating advice, seeing as how I have been out of the dating scene for several years and my work revolves around doling out career advice. That said, I am keenly aware of how similar the two are and often draw comparisons when speaking with clients. Why? Simple: many people have some fear of both but can relate better to dating; in drawing a parallel between the two, I feel that it helps people better understand how to more effectively job hunt (though, if someone is a great job hunter but not so great in the dating department, the advice could go both ways!). Without further ado, here are three ways your job search is like dating.

1) Going With the First One that Comes Along Rarely Works Out Long Term: If you are out with friends one evening, how likely a scenario is it that you will meet “the one” within the first five minutes at a bar/club/concert/whatever you single people do these days (I am obviously taking dating into the real world here; I did just have a brilliant idea, though, of creating a Tinder for the job search…).

My Advice: Clearly, playing the field for a bit is in your best interest. Look around, talk to people, do some research to find out where you will find the best fit for your current situation and long-term goals. If a “dream job” comes along and sounds like it is too good to be true, it probably is. Additionally, even if you REALLY feel connected to an opportunity one day, take your time to think, learn about it, and speak to others so you can make more of an educated decision (i.e., don’t accept on the first offer. How often does a one-night stand work out!).

2) Negotiation is Key for Future Happiness: Although I am off of the job and dating market, I know this for sure: dating and job searching both require a certain amount of negotiation (both up-front and over time). All too often, people fall into the trap of believing that he/she needs to say yes in order to move forward. While that may work initially, it becomes obvious within a few weeks that only taking into account the other side’s needs or requests results in a bad match. At that point, one can cut his/her losses or try to make it work but neither option is really ideal.

My advice: Remember that whether you are courting a job or a person, the process works best as a 2-way street. Yes, your needs are important too! Think now about what you prioritize in a job: a great office culture, the option for occasional tele-commuting, a superior benefits package, free on-site haircuts…Obviously, be realistic in what your needs are, especially for your given level and sector, but have some chosen points in mind and be prepared to discuss them when the time is right. This also might mean passing on opportunities that are not up to your standards but that’s what standards are for: waiting for Ms. or Right (Boss), not Right (Now).

3) Your Friends Can Help you Score: I’d like to rephrase the words to a popular song for you. “We all get jobs with a little help from our friends.” Here’s another song rephrase: “Applying online killed the job search.” Both are true and yield important lessons; turn to your friends, your actual (non-virtual) network of connections to help you find the right fit. Think about where people work, who they know, what they do, and if any of this information is relevant for you. The best opportunities are found not via applying online to countless roles but rather through leveraging your network to leverage theirs.

My Advice: Identify your Wingman/Wingwoman for the job search. No, this person is not the one who is most likely to speak to strangers in a bar and ask for a number; rather, it’s the person who knows a lot of people (in real life and has 500+ connections on LinkedIn), is willing to makes introductions for you, and can provide you with the advice you need to make an informed decision about a particular opportunity.

Here’s to much success in your job and love life…and that you find a job you love!

A dictionary of kisses

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“A kiss can be a comma, a question mark or an exclamation point.”  Mistinguett

Today I am wowed by kisses…

…commas, question marks, exclamation points…and also verbs, conjunctions and periods…

…kisses to say hello and good-bye; good morning and good night; I’m sorry; Please; More;  Thank you…

…kisses from dogs and cats, friends and family, from lovers…

…kisses…One can never have too many kisses.

I am blessed.  You are too!

Drink N' Think at The Republic of Letters on February 20th

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Please join this informal group at The Republic of Letters in Geneva on Tuesday, February 20th from 6 PM to 7:30 PM.  The Republic of Letters is a new bookstore located at 1 W State Street, Suite 103 in Geneva.  Space is limited so please click here to make your reservations.

Rockstar, crowdfunding pioneer, and TED speaker Amanda Palmer knows all about asking. Performing as a living statue in a wedding dress, she wordlessly asked thousands of passersby for their dollars. When she became a singer, songwriter, and musician, she was not afraid to ask her audience to support her as she surfed the crowd (and slept on their couches while touring). And when she left her record label to strike out on her own, she asked her fans to support her in making an album, leading to the world's most successful music Kickstarter.

Even while Amanda is both celebrated and attacked for her fearlessness in asking for help, she finds that there are important things she cannot ask for as a musician, as a friend, and as a wife. She learns that she isn't alone in this, that so many people are afraid to ask for help, and it paralyzes their lives and relationships. In this groundbreaking book, she explores these barriers in her own life and in the lives of those around her and discovers the emotional, philosophical, and practical aspects of THE ART OF ASKING.

Part manifesto, part revelation, this is the story of an artist struggling with the new rules of exchange in the twenty-first century, both on and off the Internet. THE ART OF ASKING will inspire readers to rethink their own ideas about asking, giving, art, and love.

This event is FREE but space is limited. Please join this informal group. An experienced facilitator will guide the discussion. Handouts will be provided. You do not need to have read the book to participate. Make your reservations at www.do-over.me/signing-up-for-events.  

Today would have been her 97th birthday

Shirley Ann Schroeder Wade Hoffman

February 12, 1921 – April 17, 2011

Shirley was born in Chicago to Hattie Kentgen and Arthur Schroeder.  She was an only child for 10 years when her brother Arthur “Bud” Schroeder was born.  The family lived on Chicago’s north side.  Her father was an HVAC worker and her mother was a housewife. 

Shirley graduated from Carl Schurz High School and then went on to nursing school at Oak Park Hospital.  Upon completion of nurse’s training she worked for a general practioner, Dr. Raleigh Charles Oldfield in Oak Park for the next seven years.  She continued a nursing career for the next 40+ years working as a hospital nurse, a private duty nurse, a geriatric nurse and a psychiatric nurse.

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In August 1945, Shirley married William Franklin Wade Jr., an Oak Park resident. Bill courted Shirley, who had already been engaged twice, with old-fashioned style.  In spite of his aeronautical engineering degree, he was a sensitive and reflective man who wrote poems which he delivered regularly during their courtship.  During the early years of their marriage they traveled and enjoyed the “Two Careers No Kids” lifestyle long before it became popular.  For seven years, their family consisted of a prize winning German Shepherd named Lady Holiday, “Holly.”  She was a show dog and won many prizes in the years that they entered her.  She was trained so well that she would sit on a “Sit/Stay” command at the corner of Lake and Chicago Avenue in downtown Oak Park on a Saturday morning, while her master and mistress shared lunch or did their errands.  Many of her prizes were beautiful sterling silver serving pieces which are as beautiful today as when she earned them.

Shirley and Bill began their family with the birth of their daughter Cynthia Kay on May 16, 1953.  She was followed two years later by a brother, William Franklin Wade, III.  The family was prosperous and happy.  The children grew and the parents remained a close couple obviously in love and delighted in their family.

The All-American family dream came to a crashing halt on January 3, 1968, when Bill suffered a massive coronary.  He died in the hospital on the day he had been expected to return to his family.  He was 47.  Shirley bowed but did not break.  She continued to raise her children vowing to provide a lifestyle as close to what they would have had had their father lived as possible.  She continued to work as an RN and began a second career as a waitress.  At some points she worked three jobs to provide for her family.

In 1974, Shirley attended the funeral of a woman who was the wife of a man that her deceased husband has worked with many years prior.  At the funeral she spoke to the grieving widower.  “You’ll be lonely,” she said.  “Call me.  We’ll have dinner.”  He did.  A week later.  They married after a year.  Walter Charles Hoffman was her second husband.  They were very happy together for 6 years until Walter died of coronary failure.

Shirley worked for another couple of years before moving out to Denver to care for her much awaited first grandchild.  Sarah Ann Wade (f. Bill) was born on November 8, 1989.  She was followed in quick succession by Katie Scarlett Kaplan (July 6, 1991 m.Cynthia) and then Jessica Lynn Wade (August 19, 1991 f. Bill).   Shirley went from only grand dogs to three beautiful granddaughters in short order.  She also moved with her son and daughter-in-law, Terri from CO to NE and then ultimately to NH before returning back to the Chicago area in 1994.

Shirley died peacefully in her sleep on Sunday, April 17, 2011.  She suffered from COPD, CHF and chronic anemia.  She is survived by her daughter, Cynthia K Wade of Geneva, IL, her son, Dr. William F. Wade and beloved daughter-in-law, Theresa K. Wade, both of Lebanon. NH.   In addition, she is survived by the lights of her life, three beautiful, happy, healthy and successful granddaughters, Sarah Ann Wade, Katie Scarlett Kaplan, and Jessica Lynn Wade.  Other family includes sisters-in-law, Loretta Schroeder, Batavia, IL and June Wade, Houston, TX, nieces Lisa Schroeder, Dr. and Mrs. Art Schroeder, Amy Free and Mary Beth Schroeder and Lynette Wade.

Other family includes... her stepfamily, Robert Hoffman of San Diego; Janet Hoffman Hardy and her husband Robert of Tucson, Az; and Linda Hoffman Dianis and her husband Jack of Concord, NH; as well as her grandchildren John Hoffman of Seattle; Scott Dianis and his wife Allison of Schenectady, NY; and Laura Dianis of Richmond, Va.; and one great-grandchild, Elise Caroline Dianis. 

My mother died at 5:05 AM on Sunday, April 17, 2011.She was 90 years old.  She lived a rich full life; one that was filled with few regrets.  She died as she had been born.  Tiny, frail, vulnerable. She died as she had lived.  Fighting against all the odds.

Only in death, did she finally accept defeat.  Or at least I think she did.  Truth to be told, I guess I won't know for sure until it is my turn.  And I will die in the same way, for I am my mother's daughter.  As certainly as she taught me to tie my shoes, she taught me to fight against all odds to live.  Not just to survive, but to thrive.

There will be no wake, funeral or memorial.  Even if she had not wandered from her Roman Catholic upbringing, her two children, my brother and I are not believers in either organized religion or the funeral industry.  My mother knew that and chose rather to have her entire body donated to medical research.  Even in death, she was ever practical and above all, sharing of all she has with others.

For those of you who wish to recognize her death in some way, I offer these suggestions.

Do not sit in a room remembering the one who died.  Rather go out and make memories with the living.

Do not send flowers to the dead.  Rather, offer flowers to the living.

Do not share a meal or a toast with a roomful for strangers.  Rather, choose never to eat alone, but always with the living. 

Do not speak words of praise of the dead.  Rather speak your love, appreciation and gratitude every day to the living.

Do not commission prayers or other religious rituals.   Rather, experience the wonders of life with the living.

Do not write a check for research.  Rather, share the most precious gift, the gift of yourself with the living.

Do not gather with semi-strangers to morn a loss.  Rather, celebrate every joy you receive with those closest to you.

Do these things frequently, whenever an opportunity presents itself.  And if it doesn't present itself frequently, create your own opportunity.

This life is not a dress rehearsal.  You cannot count on even a second take, let alone an opening night or a finale.  Grab hungrily and with gusto every moment this life has to offer.  Feel the good of life.  Feel the bad of life.   They are both equal gifts.  And you cannot have one without the other.

Introducing do-over.me at the Elgin Township Office!

Please join us at on Saturday, February 17 to learn how we can help you find a job!

Who we are. Why we were founded. How we can support you.

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Click here to register for this event or continue reading and register below.  The Elgin Township Office is located at 729 S McLean Blvd # 100, Elgin, IL. 

The workshop agenda is Questions and Answers from 9:30 to 10 AM - do-over.me introduction by Cynthia K. Wade from 10 to 11 AM - Open Networking from 11 to 11:30 AM.

Welcome to do-over.me – Your Career/Community Center.  W can help YOU get a job!

FIVE clients have gotten offers or started new jobs since January 1, 2018.  We have a proven track record of success.  You can too!

Join us to learn all about do-over.me.  The meeting will include a short presentation and an extensive Q&A session.  You'll hear about our history, learn about our success stories, and understand exactly how we can support YOU!

Please register in advance for all events, even those that are offered at no charge.  It is important for planning purposes.  Also, if an event is canceled, we will notify those who are registered. ONLINE registration closes 24 hours prior to the actual start of the event.  If you miss that deadline and want to come, please call us at 630-402-0429 to ensure that there is still space available.

Click  here to sign up for this event.